Communication is at the heart of who I am. It’s more than just exchanging words; it’s about connecting with others in genuine, thoughtful, and transformative ways. I’ve spent a lifetime cultivating a style of communication that blends authenticity, empathy, and creativity—a reflection of my journey and the person I continue to become.
I’ve always believed that every conversation has the potential to be sacred. Whether I’m talking to someone one-on-one, speaking to a congregation, or engaging in a group setting, I view communication as an opportunity to build bridges. I prefer dialogue to monologue; I thrive on exchanges where ideas flow freely and people feel safe expressing their thoughts and emotions. Active listening is a cornerstone of my communication style. I don’t just hear words; I tune into the feelings and stories behind them. I want people to feel seen, heard, and valued when they speak with me.
Storytelling is a vital aspect of my communication style. Having written blogs, sermons, and even a book, I’ve come to appreciate the power of a well-told story. Stories possess an incredible ability to disarm, inspire, and reveal truths that facts alone sometimes can’t convey. When I share a story, whether it’s my own or one I’ve encountered along the way, I invite others into a shared experience. It’s my way of saying, “You’re not alone. We’re in this together.”
Empathy plays a significant role in my communication. My identity as a genderqueer person and my transition journey have provided me with a unique perspective on the importance of understanding and honoring the experiences of others. I’ve learned that sometimes, the most meaningful communication occurs not in our words but in how we show up for those around us. It’s in the moments when we hold space for someone’s pain or celebrate their joy. It’s in the simple yet profound act of letting people know that their feelings are valid.
Creativity is a thread woven throughout my communication. Music deeply moves me, and artists like Freddie Mercury and Annie Lennox inspire me to express myself boldly and authentically. Whether I’m crafting a compelling sermon, writing a heartfelt blog post, or discovering the perfect metaphor to convey an idea, I view communication as an art form. It’s a way to bring beauty, depth, and meaning to the world.
I’m also someone who values clarity and intentionality. Words carry weight, and I strive to use them thoughtfully. In today’s fast-paced, soundbite-driven world, misunderstandings can easily arise. That’s why I try to be intentional about what I say and how I say it. Whether I’m addressing a congregation or having a casual chat with a friend, I want my words to reflect both my heart and my mind.
For me, communication is ultimately about connection. It’s about creating spaces where people can be their authentic selves, and where understanding and growth can flourish. It’s my way of weaving together the threads of my journey, my faith, and my identity into something that uplifts and inspires those around me. That’s how I like to communicate—with purpose, passion, and a lot of heart.
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